Why we dream, and what happens when we donít
In a normal day we accumulate some level of emotional stress and for many of us, we use the evening
meal to talk things out and deal with these normal daily events. If we do not manage to do that and
take these upsets to bed with us it does not matter because we have an alternative way of dealing with
them automatically programmed into our sleep. We dream.
When we dream, we play out any unresolved issues from the previous day in metaphor, thus waking
up in the morning, fresh and ready for the new day. We can look back at the previous dayís upset and
calmly question why we reacted in such a way. We notice how silly we were being, or how badly someone else
had behaved. We are clear minded, objective and emotionally calm.
However, when we carry with us some long-term unresolved emotional baggage from either past
happenings (childhood abuse, school bullying, relationship issues) as well as current daily events,
sometimes we get to a level where our sleep just canít cope. We get disturbed sleep. You may even have
told someone that you have not slept well for years.
When our sleep is disturbed, our automatic emotion-calming process no longer operates and instead
of being better in the morning, we can often feel worse (exhausted).
This starts our day off on the wrong foot, and sure enough things only get worse, leading to a repeat
the following night. We become trapped in a cycle of poor sleep, increased emotional upset, tough
day, poor sleep.
Poor sleep is a symptom of excess emotional baggage. As soon as this baggage
is calmed down normal sleep can be restored. This can be done quickly and effectively using